21 things becoming a father reminded me about management

22 things becoming a father reminded me about management
The day I became a father, it changed my life and made me realize how similar it is to managing the people I am lucky enough to work with. Below is a listing of items that I realized within the first three days of having my baby.

Of course it took me more then three days to write this post as I had to fit it all within taking care of both a new baby that relies on me for everything. (except food, my wife takes care of that)

  • They need your consent attention
    • They need my constant attention, I am always asking myself what do I need to do so they are successful?
  • You don’t know what you are doing
    • Especially when you a new. You can read all the books you want, go through training programs, classes etc, but nothing creates experience like doing.
  • You can’t forget about taking care of yourself
    • It is easy to get wrapped up in what they do, what they need where they are going. You have work to do as well, don’t put it aside.
  • You must think long term
    • Your team will naturally be focused on what is next. You need to be a number of steps ahead. Are you ready for any challenge that comes up?
  • It Is scary to be responsible
    • Fear is a great motivator. It also shows you care. Use it to your advantage.
  • You must take care of your top performers
    • Make sure they are good and taking time to grow themselves, reward them where you can, and try to take care of the things they don’t like to do so they can focus on the stuff they are great at.
  • They will frustrate you
    • Ever change a squirmy baby? How about having a member of the team not understand a clear directive. Both things will frustrate and discourage you. Help them through it, show them the way and they will come around
  • There will be crying (or whining)
    • Some decisions you make aren’t going to be popular. You’ll face some less then glowing feedback.
  • There is help
    • People have gone through this before. Find them talk to them, ask for their advice. When you are asked for your advice give it.
  • When the transition is complete, you feel lost
    • As soon as your handed the rains you have this ok great I have made it feeling. That lasts about thirty seconds then comes “oh boy, now what do I do?”
  • It is the best feeling in the world
    • When you get in either position and this just happen, you’ll know what I am talking about.
  • Your goal is to make them succeed
    • If you can train, motivate and cajole the best out of others you are both a great parent and a great manager
  • You have to deal with the dirty work
    • If it is office politics or dirty diapers both stink, but it’s up to you to deal with them. Plug your nose, and get the job done.
  • You must pitch in where needed, and understand where you can’t help
    • I try to keep my team working on the projects we have versus spending all day dealing with tickets. That however means I am the one who gets to deal with the tickets. At home since I can’t feed the baby, I can feed the rest of the household, do the laundry and change the diapers. This keeps the team focused on how to make things better long term and to advance the initiatives we set forth.
  • You must make time to work
    • As a manager I can easily spend all day in meetings, email or dealing with vendors. I have to carve out time to work. It may only be two minutes but if I can take one small step forward, then the end is worth it. Even though I am on vacation from work, This post has taken three days to write, one bullet point at a time, since I am always needed for baby, or household things. If you want to succeed you need to make the time, no matter how little it is.
  • Solve problems immediately
    • When you find something that is not right you must fix it immediately, team doing something wrong? Baby filling diapers? Deal with it before it becomes a problem
  • Your time doesn’t belong to you
    • Between the boss and the team, or between your baby, your wife and your chores, whatever free time you have has been taken up. Find ways to cut out what is unimportant and focus on the things you need to do to stay sane.
  • There is always another crisis
    • Every morning I wake up to a screaming baby. When I go into work, I often will be stopped on my way to my desk. Why? There is a crisis. Find it, fix it, move on. There is nothing that exasperates a crisis more then complaining about it.
  • Your actions and words carry more weight
    • More people are watching your every action and hanging off your every word. They will end up like you, so be the best you possible.
  • You don’t have all the answers, so don’t try
    • A great management voice, Mark Horstman says. “Your not that smart, and they are not that dumb.” don’t try to pull the wool over their eyes, if you don’t know admit it
  • You can still be great
    • You can, you’ll have to work harder, and remember don’t let it get to your head.




  1. S.J.Nija

    Thanks for this awesome post, Kraig – I am in IT too, so this really resonates with me! I am a a-little-over-newbie blogger trying to combine a writing life with an IT life and you had great tips at you guest post in problogger too. Thanks a lot!

  2. Kraig

    Thanks S.J. I like the Theme of your blog. I am going to add that into my must read, to come up with ideas to do with my little one gets a bit older.


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